I Can Want Connection Without Chasing It
May 31, 2025
Desire doesn’t have to turn into pursuit. I can hold space for what I long for—without running after it.
There’s a delicate balance I’m learning:
Wanting connection without chasing it.
Because I do want it.
The late-night talks. The quiet companionship. The kind of love that feels safe and spacious.
But I no longer want to lose myself trying to get it.
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There’s a delicate balance I’m learning:
Wanting connection without chasing it.
Because I do want it.
The late-night talks. The quiet companionship. The kind of love that feels safe and spacious.
But I no longer want to lose myself trying to get it.
I used to chase. I’d overextend. I’d prove I was worthy. I’d hope my effort would make someone stay. But what I’ve learned is—real connection doesn’t require convincing.
Now, I let my desire be.
I don’t shut it down, and I don’t let it drive me.
I let it soften me, not spin me.
Because I trust that what’s right for me won’t need to be chased.
It’ll arrive with reciprocity, not resistance.
And until then, I’ll keep tending to the connection I have with myself.
That’s the one that makes everything else possible.
I used to chase. I’d overextend. I’d prove I was worthy. I’d hope my effort would make someone stay. But what I’ve learned is—real connection doesn’t require convincing.
Now, I let my desire be.
I don’t shut it down, and I don’t let it drive me.
I let it soften me, not spin me.
Because I trust that what’s right for me won’t need to be chased.
It’ll arrive with reciprocity, not resistance.
And until then, I’ll keep tending to the connection I have with myself.
That’s the one that makes everything else possible.