There’s a strange energy in the air when you finally walk away from the people who conditioned you — especially when those people were your family.

In the silence that follows, there’s space.
And in that space, I find myself reaching for voices that don’t sugarcoat the pain, but also don’t flinch from the power it holds.

One of those voices for me has been Friedrich Nietzsche.

If I were to take his ideas and infuse them into my life right now — in this raw, in-between, rebuilding place — these are the ones that resonate.
Maybe they’ll resonate for you too.

🗿 1. Become Who You Are

This one hits different when you’ve been shaped by narcissistic conditioning.
I spent years trying to be good. Accommodating. Acceptable.

Now?
I want to be real.

“Become who you are! Do what only you can do. Be the master and the sculptor of yourself.”

It’s a daily invitation to peel back the layers that were never really me — and to stop apologizing for the fire that’s been buried underneath.

🌑 2. Let Chaos Be Sacred

Sometimes I still feel overwhelmed — the weight, the exhaustion, the cravings, the grief.
But Nietzsche reframes that chaos as necessary. Not as a flaw, but as fuel.

“One must still have chaos in oneself to give birth to a dancing star.”

I’m learning not to rush past the mess.
To sit in it. To breathe in it.
Because maybe this isn’t a breakdown — maybe it’s a birth.

🧍‍♂️ 3. Obey Yourself Now

I’m no longer under my mother’s rule, or anyone else’s script.
But that also means I need to learn to follow something deeper — my own soul.

“He who cannot obey himself will be commanded.”

That looks like eating what truly nourishes me. Saying no.
Honouring when I’m exhausted instead of overriding myself.

“No price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”

And I’m paying that price. Willingly.

⚔️ 4. Live Dangerously

Not in a reckless way — but in a way that lets me lean into life.
Speak my truth. Create something that matters.
Even if it’s quiet. Even if no one sees it but me.

“The secret of reaping the greatest fruitfulness and the greatest enjoyment from life is to live dangerously!”

For me, that might be filming a video in Norway.
Or writing honestly.
Or showing up to the day with nothing to prove.

🐍 5. Shed or Die

There’s an old identity falling away:
The boy who tolerated too much.
The man who kept the peace to stay connected.
The version of me who coped by overeating and staying small.

“The snake that cannot shed its skin must perish.”

I’m shedding. It’s painful. But it’s working.
Something new is being revealed.

🧠 A Few Truths I’m Carrying Forward

  • You don’t need to be understood by the people you left behind.
  • You are allowed to choose silence over performance.
  • Solitude can be fertile ground.
  • You’re not meant to stay a caterpillar out of guilt that the others won’t fly.

“Do not pity yourself. Marvel at yourself.”

I’m trying.

This healing isn’t linear.
But it is real.

And if you’re here too — rebuilding, unraveling, reclaiming — then maybe you’re not falling apart.
Maybe you’re just becoming.

And Nietzsche, in all his raw, unfiltered brilliance, might have smiled at that.