Learning to Allow
June 04, 2025
Moving from fear to trust is difficult — but it might be where most of the fruit is. A quiet reflection on letting life unfold without force.
I keep coming back to this idea of uncertainty — not as something to conquer, but something to be with.
It’s been difficult for me to move into that way of being. Most of my life has been shaped by the need to control. To manage. To preempt. I’ve never really had someone model what it looks like to trust the process. It was always about survival, never surrender. It was always out of fear.
But I’m starting to ease into a different kind of framework.
What if it could come from love? What if I could trust the process — not out of naivety or false optimism, but because I finally believe that the life I want doesn’t have to be forced into place?
That maybe the most fruitful things in life grow slowly. Quietly. Only when given space.
It’s still hard. Letting things naturally arise. Not rushing into conversations, relationships, or plans just to fill a gap. Not gripping onto meaning in every moment.
But I’m learning that trying to force life to bend to my timeline has only kept me from noticing the life already trying to meet me.
There’s something deeper available in the waiting. A freedom I’ve never really known.
And maybe, if I keep choosing this — If I allow things to unfold without control — The people who are meant to walk with me will find me. Naturally. Without force. Without pretending. Without me having to exhaust myself to earn it.
Just me, showing up — open, rooted, and finally letting life come to me.