Letting Go of the Need to Be Understood

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There was a time I desperately wanted to be understood.

I’d explain my feelings in detail. Clarify my choices. Overcommunicate just to make sure someone got it. And when they didn’t, I’d feel small, unseen, even ashamed.

But the truth is—not everyone will understand me.
Not everyone needs to. Not everyone’s meant to.

And that doesn’t mean I’m wrong.
Or broken.
Or too much.

It just means we’re living different stories.

Now, I give myself permission to walk away from conversations that only drain me. I save my deeper truths for those who’ve earned them. And I remind myself that being misunderstood doesn’t mean I’ve failed.

I’m not here to convince the world I make sense.

I’m here to live in a way that feels true—even if only I understand why.

That’s enough.