When I Feel the Urge to Chase

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There are moments when I feel the urge to chase.

Chase a message. Chase a connection. Chase validation. Chase the feeling that I matter.

And when that urge rises, it’s loud. It feels urgent. Like I need to act on it immediately or I’ll lose something forever.

But I’m starting to slow down and ask:

“What am I really chasing right now?”

More often than not, it’s not the person or situation in front of me—it’s a feeling I didn’t get somewhere else. An old unmet need. A version of me still waiting to be chosen.

So I pause.

I breathe.

And I remind myself:

• If it’s real, I won’t have to chase it.
• If it’s mutual, I won’t have to convince anyone.
• If it’s meant, it will meet me halfway.

This is how I’m unlearning pursuit as proof of worth.

This is how I’m letting myself be chosen—without performing, pleasing, or proving.

And some days, that choice changes everything.